Picking up the pieces

There comes a time in life when all the effort you've made to get something you want goes in vain,where once there was happiness there is now a void, where all the hope you had disappears,to be replaced by confusion and uncertainty,just like that in a moment,a minute,a second.

I know they say sometimes you have to take two steps back to make one leap forward but that's something we do only when things go wrong,think about it,how many times do you read about quotes on failure when you've succeeded? Almost never.It's only when you have a setback that you look at such quotes,it gives you temporary reassuring which is needed at the time,but deep down inside that sinking feeling is still there somewhere,waiting to be smothered by something,anything.

There are some things therapy can't cure. For everything else, there's ice cream.

To be honest it doesn't occur just once, so i shouldn't say there's a time it comes.Life gives you a series of such moments.

The obvious reaction to any moments like these is a high level of disappointment and it stings for a while.
But moments like these are the ones where you find out who's got the character to get through it and who doesn't.It's easy to be strong when it's all going hunky dory,but its the adversity which determines who you are and how you come out on the other side is the parameter by which people respect you...or don't.

While it isn't an overnight process and anything or anyone you've attached yourself to emotionally takes time to heal,it's important to keep going forward and not stand still,or worse,go backwards.

 
There are 3 types of people in this event.
1.The kind that pretend they didn't ever care about it in the first place.
2.The kind that tell people,which in turn loosens that burden and helps them move on quicker.
3.The kind that accept what's happened,just gulp it as "shit happens",move on and probably vow to never get so attached in the first place.

The Fourth kind

No such thing as right or wrong in types of people,to each his own but it's still important to acknowledge a problem when you see one,else it'll snowball into a bigger problem than it was in the first place and you'll be back to square one. 

Sometimes the best gift of all is being practical and knowing what stuff is real and what just helps pass time.

In life,circumstances don't always pan out like you want them to..forget always,they almost never do. You either sit and cry over why it turned out the way it did or you can use the times that are difficult, that frustration, that hurt to move on to better things.

It's easier to reminisce, its easier to just sit there doing nothing.
When your first instinct isn't to do one of those two things,you've made it.Until then,its a rocky road with pebbles all around to sting you. 

The moments in adversity are the ones that make you & at the end of the day, its a long journey that isn't always rosy and it's not always going to be happy.

It's all down to you to pick up the pieces and carry on.

Pursuit of Happiness

Do what makes you happy,they said..Do something you love,they said...what they didn't say was it comes at a price.(unless you're a pimp or a pornstar or something,in which case a big thumbs up to you)

Its ok,Joe.

For anyone who's seen Wall Street or even someone who hasnt you (you need to watch it) can remember Gordan Gekko's famous "Greed is good" quote.

When i first saw the movie i never really got the quote..it seemed rather ill conceived to me,i mean greed is an endless pit whereby the person exhausts himself in an endless effort to satisfy himself without ever reaching satisfaction.

How can that be good? I mean why would you want to keep wanting more when you already had everything?

Weed is better

As time goes on tho,you tend to identify more and more with this quote and the whole being content with what you have goes out the window.

Some people might disagree on this but the price of being content is completely surrendering your ambition.

Being content means your satisfied with where you are,happy how everything's going and wouldn't mind carrying on the current life for the rest of eternity.

On paper thats what life is about,no?..Being happy,being with the people you love and in the comfort zone.

The time your boat starts rocking is when you want a phase shift,when you want something more.When you do this,the tide your swimming against seems stronger,the size of the waves coming at you seem larger and everything seems like its falling apart.

You'll probably start thinking why on earth you ever wanted more in the first place.But thats the way the cookie crumbles and once you do want more its tough going back to that content phase of life.

While i'm not saying that every ambitious person isn't happy and that every happy person isn't ambitious,there's just a fine line in these things.Sometimes you can't always get what you want and this irks some more than others.

The sad part about finally getting that thing you worked your ass for, like a new job,a promotion,a better house etc.. is after the initial period or so you'll find something about it that doesnt satisfy you and you'll set a new position to reach,a higher target,forgetting the journey you had to make to get to this place itself.

You can look at it in two ways,Either the person's a prick for being so greedy and never happy with what he has or he's just a very hardworking ambitious chap who can get whatever he sets his sight on.

Its a tough call,would you rather be the rich lonely owner or the fairly happy average employee?

At the end of the day tho,happiness trumps everything and when you're on your deathbed you wont be thinking about the money you made so i'd just about lean to the happy employee side,maybe that'll change with time.

Modern day regrets may differ

Anyways,thats just my personal view.I hate it when clichéd quotes are true but the whole "Do what makes you happy" crap actually does makes sense.

So what would YOU prefer? (please dont answer with Male/Female)

Hitting Rock Bottom

Note:This is not a post about tips on how to do a "rock bottom".

You need a strong right arm for starters.

Anyways,now that that very important issue is cleared up,let me get to the point of this post before you start thinking this is a nonsense post(you might still think that at the end of it,tho.But come on bro,give it a chance)

There comes a point in life when you face so many issues that you just hit absolute rock bottom,all the advice you get seems irrelevant,the things you do day in and day out seem totally pointless,problems keep coming at you like a giant wave that keeps smashing you against the rocks.

You get the gist.

The thing is when you get in this mood some of the bullshit you receive like "It'll be fine","It happens to everyone" kind of clichéd advice infuriates you even further,can't blame the person who's giving that cause well what else do you expect him/her to say? They are probably bugged of you ranting on and on, which is why,personally,i'd much rather be in that deep ditch for a while sort out the issues myself and slowly climb out rather than some of the forced crap society forces some people to do.

Seriously.

There's a famous theory on how problems make you stronger and facing them head on eventually helps in the long race.Only time will tell whether that's right in my case,but as of now i'd think that just because ive faced a similar problem in the past doesnt make it any easier to face it now.Infact it sucks even more when you have a similar problem cause it means you clearly havent addressed that issue and learnt from your previous mistakes.(Sorry to sound preachy)

Also,this whole meant to be and not meant to be crap. 

If you screw up,instead of taking responsibility on what happened and trying to fix that,too many times we coolly just think it wasnt meant to be and that's that.Its so much easier to do that and find a bunch of quotes said by someone famous about how some things arent meant to be than to actually fix a problem,no?

The strings of my guitar broke a while back,probably me playing guitar just wasnt meant to be,the world just lost its next Jimi Hendrix.The tragedy.

Now let me sit on my ass and not do anything about it since a tumblr photo tells me there's no use.

Moving on,you see that person who has everything you want right now?..walk a few steps in there shoes or if they're really nice ones,walk a mile,see what they've been through before judging em,begrudging them,calling them lucky,just because they havent told you about their problems doesn't mean they didn't have any,idiot.

Never judge a book by its cover, or these days, Never judge a facebook profile by its cover.

End of rant.

Glad to know i brightened up your mood and put your mind in the land of meadows and landscapes where everything is just so pure and mystical.

If you love something,set it free..if it comes back,it's yours,if it doesn't,call CID.

Song for the day: Dice by Finlay Quaye.

Keeping the faith

There are many things which piss off in life.Not getting what you want,not knowing what you want,the heat(Vellore temperatures seriously wtf!),the sheer ineptitude of certain people,being let down,screwing up an exam,a friend who "didn't study at all" doing well in the same exam,slow internet etc..you get my drift.

But no matter what you're still supposed to be keep the faith,be patient and reap the rewards.Apparently if you're patient enough things will come your way and life will magically work itself out.

Being impatient is a real kicker and you cant help but think how many times we end up in the same situations,time after time after time.

Sometimes it just feels like life's a re-run with different outcomes.

We can do a million things different and yet end up at a dead end.In fact you will always eventually reach a dead end in whatever path you chose, just have to make sure you haven't missed the last detour.

So how much does patience pay? A lot.

Yeah.

Being patient is one of the hardest things in life cause there's always that temptation to just lose your head and go ahead with the easiest option.It's hard to convince yourself there's a light at the end of the tunnel at certain points in life.

There's a famous quote which goes "There are plenty of fish in the sea",to which you'd sometimes think Yea,but you're nowhere close to the sea,you're far away in a desert,far away,all alone.

This guy is definitely in that place.

 Also, there's no guarantee being patient will always pay off but about 9 out of 10 times i'm sure people who've rushed into their choices regret it.

"Hum honge kamayab..ek din"

                                

Morgan Freeman in Seven said, "It's easier to lose yourself in drugs than it is to cope with life.It's easier to steal what you want than it is to earn it. It's easier to beat a child than it is to raise it. Hell, love costs: it takes effort and work"

Read that in his voice and you'll know the power of such a simple statement.

Keeping the faith is hard,ask any football or sports fans in general,supporting a club week in week out,feeling shit after a defeat and going to bed,but still looking forward to the next game cause that's what a supporter is.

And that's how life works i guess,all about getting up after every setback.Not that coming back from a setback guarantees you wont have anymore,its a constant process and you just cant afford to get frustrated and give in.

Its clichéd advice,but patience is a virtue and if you want more ups than downs,you need an abundance of it. 

Cutting the cord.

Hello,and welcome back to the blog. Been a while since i wrote a post,exams are to blame,but now there's a lot of time to kill.(A sincere apology to those who thought i had closed the blog for good)

Having so much free time is what we always want and yet when we finally get it we dont want it anymore.Holidays aren't what they were anymore,the only thing i like about it is i can wake up whenever i want, after that its all downhill during the day.

The mind is just too damn idle and it leads to overthinking, problems which were never there in the first place pop up from nowhere and get you all tangled up in the head.One such issue which came up was when i thought of all the people who i've completely lost touch with and have no idea where they even were anymore(keeping in touch on FB doesnt count).

More often that not its the people you were closest to that you've completely lost touch with.Its never those annoying buggers who you never liked in the first place,its always someone who you were close with,had your best times with.

Tried to work my mind around why the cord gets cut,and the only reason i could think of is it happens unintentionally more often than not, i wish it could be some dramatic event like a big fight to which i could pinpoint to but it isn't, atleast for me. 

This is just disturbing tho.

It just isn't the same when you're in different cities,calls or messages dont have the same feeling since your'e too far away to really make a difference.

The odd call is always nice tho,and it helps to remember how much things and life in particular has changed.

Anyways,what the distance does help determining is who your best friends really are and who are there just to fill up your friend list on Facebook.

With the real ones you may not be in touch for years and still with just one message or meeting you still connect & things seem to have just paused in time rather than stopping altogether.

To sum up, environments will always change and you need to adapt by adding new people into your life,just the way life works,and that in turn will result in some of your older friends being given a tad less importance.

You really hope that one person doesn't get a raw deal tho,but nearly always ends up happening.

Depending on the person,this constant change either leads to complete cutting off with someone who you were very close with or you still hold that person high up on your priority list and still help solve his/her problems.

I've been on both sides of the spectrum,there are people who i've been very close to years ago who i have no idea about right now and i also have friends who i've known for 15+ years with whom things never change regardless of how long we go without talking.

"At the end of the day,you're just left with yourself all the time, whatever you do anyway. You've got to get down to your own God in your own temple. It's all down to you, mate".

That's a John Lennon quote,and i thought id summarizes things up pretty well.

Keeping shush.

Disclaimer:This post is not a work of fiction but any resemblance to real persons,living or dead,is purely coincidental.*cough*

With exams just sneaking around about,thought id get a post in before my mind starts gets too clattered with the rubbish i study and wont let me think clearly.

So anyways.

Ever had a fight with someone and stormed off by telling them "You wont understand" or ever been told those words or something along the lines of  "If only you could see things from my point of view"?.

I'm sure you've been on both sides, so here's a thought,we've always been told to let things out and not keep anything inside as it increases stress and shit like that which in turn is not good for health.(load of BS).

Let me tell you a bunch of stuff you'll never understand.

Sure,its not good to keep things bottled up inside and to a certain extent you need to tell people what's happening and its always good to get a different perspective and opinion on an issue,but there's a fine line in these things.

If a friend of yours is telling you about a certain problem of his/her, your probably very receptive the first time,but its when they go on and on that it gets a tad annoying.

Funnily enough,you've probably done the same at some particular time,and he would've thought the same.

Yet we go through the motions cause of the great social obligations of society.You stop giving real advice,you give him the cliched shit, your friend knows it too,yet you go through with it,cause apparently its mean not to.

So why do we do it then?..I don't know i'm not a psychiatrist.

Heh.

All I'm saying is sometimes its probably best to just keep certain things to yourself, rather than blaming the other person for not "understanding" your situation or problem at the time, just think of it from his/her point of view.

Is it really that bad to hold on to something and just keep it for your brain to work on and think about?.

For me,its that time just before sleeping where my brain just wont stop with the damn thinking and ill let out some stupid stuff which ill regret in the morning.

Anyways,no offence to anyone out there,not targeted to anyone in particular,just thought id get my views across,and if you really cant keep your problems in,join twitter.

PS:CID tonight,woohoo!

Living the Dream.

You always like..visualize where your gonna be and what your gonna do....this aint it.

That's a line from Surf's Up, a funny animated movie about a penguin chasing his dream of surfing.(chill,this is not some cheesy "go chasing your dreams,you go girl" kind of a post)

We've all had dreams and most of us are probably wondering or wishing we had chased it.

For some people,it was art,painting,some music,some writing,dance etc.

As another weekend nearly draws to a close where half of it has been spent sleeping, and the other half watching football (el clasico on right now but net speed too low to stream),thoughts invariably drift to the week ahead.

The same old week,the same old lectures to sit through,and another weekend to look forward to.Except,after another messed up exam a couple of days back, kind of got me thinking much further ahead.Im beginning to begrudge it more and more, i aint no programmer and have never really had much of a passion for it & probably never will.

Always had it in my head,that as soon as i get the degree, i shall get the hell out of here,never come back and join advertising, where i had interned for a bit, and loved the job.

My mind,bitch.

Except theres always that longing doubt in the head,what if its not all you had thought it to be?, what if the only reason you wanted to do it was because it was something you couldnt have, i mean wheres the guarantee that the same issues wont creep up when taking it up as a job, its fun as a hobby but making it a job can soon change that to a chore.

I know some people who've been forced into their fields, but i aint one of them, i didnt know what i wanted four years back, so i chose a safe option, and i'm pretty sure that quite a lot of people did the same, blaming parents and saying they pushed is easy, but if you were confident and bold enough you should have had the balls to do what you like and face the consequences if it didnt work out.

Point is,this, anything you do will have its fair share of boring and frustrating times, even a dream job, but if at the end of the day you feel happy with what you've done,stick to it,it takes time and patience.

If its something which gives you satisfaction, you probably wont even have the time to think about if its what you want to do, so if you're the super busy kind,you've hit the jackpot, it might not be your dream job, but its something you dont hate doing.

On the other hand,if its something which makes you write a blogpost about,it probably is.

PS:Powercut in my room now,FML.

The Times They Are A-Changin'

Why did Govinda cross the road? To eat bhel puri.

That has nothing to do with this post,got it off twitter,cracked me up,thought id share the joy,funny one no?.No? Ahh well.

Anyways,was just talking to an old friend (always do when things get unbelievably frustrating out here),shared the frustrations of this place and then went on to the inevitable Reminiscing phase.
Remember when we did "so and so".."Yeah man..good times"."Fuck that was crazy man..cant believe we did it","Do you remember that one time we..." was more or less the gist of the conversation.

Probably happened to everyone out there,when things aren't going particularly well or maybe your just bored, we tend to look at the past and think of all the things we did then,especially when your away from home and living in a different city(or in my case,Satan's own village).


Funny thing is how,more often than not,you only remember the good times,and the bad times are completely a miss.
Yet given a choice( i mean suppose there's a time machine or something),in the blink of an eye would you give up everything you have now and go back?..Probably,not.

When in college,people talk about school days being kickass(I'm not one of them),we bitch about our current lives(definitely one of them),and about 5 years down the line we'll reminisce about our college days (maybe one of them) and so on and so on.


Its a good thing to forget the bad times and keep the good memories but hindsight can be a real bitch that way,shows you what you want to see and can mess your head,it can stop you from moving on and keep you living in the past.


Probably the main reason we probably reminisce is cause things arent quite the way you imagined and you'd like to pacify your mind that they were all well at a point.They probably werent,and you probably know that deep down somewhere but well we still do it.


All about how you react to change i guess, if things are going great guns at your new place then this probably doesnt pertain to you, but at some point i'm sure it'll enter your head at some point sooner or later.

Not this kind of change

Bottom line is, reminisce all the fuck you want,give yourself an orgy reminiscing if you want,just move on eventually tho and remember life at the moment isnt that bad also(although if your reading this blog its probably not the best hehe,jk..seriously,dont get offended or anything.) 


Adios,have a good one.

Breaking the Monotony.

First off,welcome to the blog,as if procrastination on Twitter and Facebook wasn't enough,this is the final nail in the coffin of my attempts at having a life.

*moment of silence*

Alright,moving on,i will ease on the negativity in the first post,and give my two cents about something most of us experience at some point or the other in our lives.Monotony(You know..that "I'm so bored" feeling).

You could be the happiest,most optimistic,popular person on the planet,but most of us all have that "Same thing every effing day" feeling at some point or the other.

It can be the same fixed work schedule for those working in offices, the same people you meet everyday, the same schedule for those in colleges etc etc.Its basically that period in life everyone encounters at some point or another.

                  

Depending upon the person, this can be quite a ditch to fall into. The key to getting out of it is by doing something, anything just a little different in the day (cliched but true), or finding someone/something in that routine which makes you feel just that little bit better. For some,its a coffee break at a particular time or just a walk and for the more negative ones like myself, we just accept thats how life is and just move on hoping the situation will change someday.

On the flip side, some people enjoy the fixed schedules, and pretty much center their lives around that,doing the same thing, week in week out,its a steady & settled life, but more often than not these are the same people complaining about how bored they are and how everything is so dull.

So, to sum up,there is a fine line between Monotony and Dedication/Sincerity, about as thin as the line between Genius and Stupidity, and it helps every now and then to shake things up a bit, if nothing else,atleast for some excitement in the routine that is life.

To everyone who's made it this far, you probably deserve a medal. Post your address in the comments and i shall send you one,definitely.

Hope you enjoyed it,until the next post,ta-ta.